October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Many people may be reluctant to talk about the issue but it is more common than people realize.
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) estimates about 41% of women and 26% of men in the United States have experienced some form of domestic violence.
This can include physical attacks, sexual assaults, mental abuse, and even stalking.
Domestic Violence in Montgomery County
Domestic violence also is a serious problem in Montgomery County. State’s Attorney John McCarthy told MCM his office prosecuted more than 1,100 cases in District Court last year.
“This does not include many domestic violence cases we handle in Circuit Court, so the numbers are much higher,” McCarthy said.
Court Watch Montgomery
A non-profit organization called Court Watch Montgomery keeps track of domestic violence cases. The organization was founded in 2010, and it formulated its advocacy work a year later.
“Since 2011, our organization has been the only one in Maryland that observes and collects data on what actually happens during domestic violence hearings, said Lavontte Chatmon, the executive director of Court Watch Montgomery.
“Our mission is to identify courthouse practices that help keep victims safe and advocate for improvements in policy. We want to ensure safety and access to justice for all victims of domestic violence. We serve as a bridge between the courts and the community to advocate for comprehensive solutions to domestic violence,” she added.
Cases Difficult to Prosecute
Domestic violence cases are often challenging to prosecute.
“Domestic violence often happens behind closed doors without third party witnesses. Victims of domestic violence may feel pressured not to participate in the criminal justice system. This pressure can come from the abuser, friends, or family. There are other factors as well such as financial pressure, fear, shame, housing or food insecurity to name a few,” said Assistant State’s Attorney Debbie Feinstein.
She heads the Special Victims Division in the State’s Attorney’s office. Domestic violence impacts more than just the people involved in the relationship.
Impact on the Community
“I want people to understand that domestic violence is not just a private issue—it’s a community issue that impacts the safety and well-being of everyone. Domestic violence can influence families, children, workplaces, and society as a whole. Victims face complex challenges including physical danger, emotional trauma, financial instability, and systemic barriers when they seek help,” Chatmon told MCM.
Chatmon became involved in Court Watch Montgomery because she has long advocated for “vulnerable populations and improving the systems that serve them especially victims of gender-based violence.” She has more than 15 years of experience in mental health, women’s rights, and victims’ services.
Types of Abuse
Different types of abuse exist. Physical abuse typically involves actions like hitting, slapping, or pushing. It involves actions that can cause physical harm. However, partners can inflict emotional and mental abuse on one another.
“These often involve more subtle but deeply damaging tactics like manipulation, intimidation, gas lighting, isolation, and constant criticism. Emotional abuse can erode a person’s self-esteem. That will often leave the abused person powerless, confused, and dependent on the abuser,” Chatmon said.
“While physical abuse can leave obvious bruises or scars, emotional abuse attacks a person’s mental well-being. This can lead to anxiety, depression, and long-lasting trauma,” Chatmon explained.
Both forms of abuse fall under the umbrella of domestic violence. Chatmon said emotional abuse often precedes physical abuse.
“It is important to recognize that domestic violence isn’t just about physical harm. It’s about power and control in a relationship whether that’s exerted through physical, emotional, or psychological means,” Chatmon said.
Leaving a Toxic Relationship
Partners involved in abusive relationships often find it difficult to leave. However, help is available. The State’s Attorney’s office recommends women seek help at the Family Justice Center, the Crisis Center, or Domestic Violence Shelter. The County has free resources available 24/7. People can call 240-773-0444 or 240-777-4000.
“If someone is in a toxic or abusive relationship right now, the most important thing for them to know is that it is not their fault. Everyone deserves to be in a relationship where they are respected and safe. They should also know they are not alone, and that help is available,” Chatmon said.
She added that if a victim is not ready to leave yet, that is okay. She said it often takes time for a person to figure out the right path for them, but having a plan in place can be a key first step.
Additional Information
Court Watch Montgomery is hosting a webinar on Wednesday, October 30 at 5 p.m. The group will present findings on its recent report on protective order outcomes. People interested in attending can register by Zoom.
Here is the link:
http://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZcrdeuqqDsiHtT_O9mlwlCiNuisPYWZ1eyF#/registration
